To remain connected in a positive way takes more than just words. Investing time and energy will pay dividends. It all starts with you being honest with yourself about what is important to you in a relationship and also making sure that you have taken the time to really get to know your partner.
I have listed below some tips that go someway to nurturing couples relationships.
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- Enjoy what you have in common and appreciate the differences that exist rather than trying to change them
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- Learn the art of listening rather than assuming you know what your partner thinks or means
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- Make time to do things together and concentrate on the quality of time you share rather than the quantity. Bring laughter into the relationship and have fun
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- Remember that although you are in a relationship you are still individuals so have your own identities. Have some space, spend time on doing things you want to do either alone or with friends etc
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- Be supportive of each others career, hobbies, desires, goals etc
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- Show appreciation, don’t just do things because you feel obliged, do them because you want to
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- Don’t take each other for granted, when was the last time you said thank you or perhaps bought your partner a small gift, perhaps flowers, CD or a magazine
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- Hugs and kisses should not be confined to the bedroom, be spontaneous
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- Keep romance alive, when did you last pay your partner a compliment or did something nice? Like leave a funny or loving note for your partner to find
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- When issues arise take time to talk about them with each other rather that to everyone else.
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- If you’re experiencing feelings of becoming disconnected check what has caused this. Identify what is missing or what might need to change and if necessary get some outside help.
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- Seeking outside help from a third party who is not emotionally involved and has no bias is a testament to your commitment to wanting to resolve the issues that have come to the fore.
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